Our Environment Discussion Covenant: Guide to a Productive Review
GUIDING WISDOM:
“The right word spoken at the right time is as beautiful as gold apples in a silver bowl.” (Proverbs 25:11)
“Let no harmful word come out of your mouth, but only what is beneficial for building others up according to the need, so that it gives grace to those who hear it.” (Ephesians 4:29)
“Life is short, and you love your wife, so enjoy being with her.” (Ecclesiastes 9:9)
The Purpose of Our Covenant
We affirm that this time is about growth, not judgment. Our partner is our “mirror”—an invaluable guide to seeing ourselves as they see us. We commit to making appropriate changes, and we trust that God will work through this process to bless our relationship. This kind of focused conversation will:
- Show that we are making our relationship a priority.
- Help us feel valued and loved by each other.
- Foster trust, romance, and intimacy.
- Strengthen our overall relationship.
Essential Ground Rules
We commit to practicing these non-negotiable rules for our discussion:
- Timing and Mindset: We will not meet if either of us is tired, hungry, irritable, or intoxicated. We commit to setting aside all complaints, criticisms, or disappointments for this time.
- Practice “Turn-Ons”: We will practice powerful “Turn-Ons” such as beginning with compliments, smiling, maintaining eye contact, and using an optimistic tone and open body language.
- Mutual Goal: Our goal is mutual understanding, not convincing the other person we are right.
- Share Compliments Now: We will share the thoughtful compliments we have prepared before clicking “Begin Now” to start the review. This sets a positive, affectionate tone.