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Follow this Procedure to Review and Discuss

Your Listening Mirror

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry”
– James 1:19

“Listen to counsel, accept criticism that you may be wise the rest of your days.”
– Proverbs 19:20

Take advantage of this opportunity to see yourself as your spouse sees you, make appropriate changes and watch what God does for your relationship.

“So don’t be adverse to converse. Don’t balk at a talk. Let’s get ready to really communicate.”
R. Petersen

Purpose of Your Discussion

  1. Invest 45 minutes to show that you are making your relationship a priority,
  2. Help each other to feel valued and loved,
  3. Increase self-esteem,
  4. Foster trust, romance, and intimacy.

Avoid the Number One Turn Off

Do not meet if you or your partner is tired, hungry, irritable, or intoxicated.

Practice These Powerful “Turn-Ons”

  1. Set aside any complaints, criticism or disappointments.
  2. Share your partner’s positive attributes and behaviors to create a warm climate and positive energy for the rest of the meeting.
    a. Collect at least five compliments that you will give your partner. What attracted you to your partner? What is it that you specifically admired or liked about what your partner did this past week?
    b. Decide who will begin to share compliments.
  3. Smile when you give and receive compliments.
  4. Make eye contact with each other, and
  5. Relax.
  6. Use an optimistic tone of voice.
  7. Provide a friendly facial expression.
  8. Keep an open posture.
  9. Sincerely thank your partner for the compliments and prepare to reciprocate

Now You Are Ready to Review and Compare of Your Answers

Remember you are concentrating on fostering harmony and goodwill.

Take Turns Focusing on the Following Questions.

  1. What would you like to change in the way you communicate with your partner?
  2. What do you like about how your partner communicates with you?
  3. Is there anything in the inventory that surprises you about what your partner said about how you communicate?
  4. Where do your answers agree or disagree with your partner’s answers.
  5. What would you like for your partner to do to encourage your communication?

Get Ready to Review “The Positive Skills that Erase Negative Habits” and Make Your Choice.

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