50 YEARS OF LISTENING RESEARCH
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You know how well you listen.Would your spouse agree?
Good communication is a set of daily habits two people can learn—and it starts with seeing where you stand today. These eight behaviors, sampled from The Marriage Mirror assessments, give you an honest snapshot across how you listen, speak, and connect. Two minutes, no signup to start.
See your communication strengths and key areas for growth
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A practical first step toward deeper trust and understanding
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BEHAVIOR OF 8
EIGHT OF EIGHT. DONE.
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YOUR SCORE, OUT OF 5, ON THE PROGRAM'S OWN SCALE
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LISTENING
SPEAKING
ENVIRONMENT
YOUR WEAKEST PILLAR:
YOUR NEXT STEP
Your score shows one side of the story. The Marriage Mirror shows both.
Your biggest opportunity right now is . Inside the program, you and your spouse each rate yourselves and each other on habits, see all four views side by side, and build a simple 21-day plan to close the gap.
One decision. A lifetime of better conversations.
Every couple pays for poor communication: the same argument on repeat, the hurt that builds up, the quiet distance that creeps in. The Marriage Mirror is a one-time investment in the relationship you'll live in for the rest of your life. It's built to help you argue less, understand each other more, and both feel truly heard, year after year.
$97 once. A better relationship for life. You can't put a price tag on that.
Want to start on your own?
Many people do. You can begin right away, answer your spouse's side by stepping into their shoes, and your spouse can join any time at no extra cost.
“I endorse the Marriage Mirror because I know it works.”
KEN BLANCHARD, CO-AUTHOR OF THE ONE MINUTE MANAGER
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of participants showed independently verified improvement in their communication skills
professionals taught Dr. Robertson's listening method, in boardrooms and classrooms long before it came home.
central pillars of communication for skill-building: Listening, Speaking, Environment
BUILT ON THE LISTENING METHOD DR. ROBERTSON TAUGHT AT
IBMAT&TNew York LifeNestléGeneral MotorsThe FBI Academy
FROM COUPLES WHO HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT
What changes when you both feel heard.
I thought 'this will be great for my husband. He really needs to learn to listen better.' A few steps in, I realized I needed it just as much as he did.
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AMBER M.
Wife, and the one who started it
We didn't think we had time for marriage counseling. The short videos and exercises fit into our chaotic schedules, and we noticed the impact right away.
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GEORGE & CYNDY M.
Married, two careers
Rather than being a quick exercise, it provides a framework for reflection, conversation, and continued improvement, making it a valuable investment for couples who are willing to engage with the process together.
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ROSANNE & ED W.
Completed all three pillars
The program objectively revealed our communication habits and perceptions, shifting the focus away from defensiveness and toward building positive, actionable habits together.
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CASSANDRA D.
Wife
The Compliments Collection exercise was an infusion of life for our relationship. It made both of us feel incredibly seen and appreciated.
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DOUG C.
Husband
Highly interactive and deeply practical. You walk away with an actual communication plan, not just a set of theories.
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DIANE M.
Wife
"My wife, Linda, and I lived and learned them together, discovering that to truly connect, we must learn to listen to the heart as well as the mind. The methods that worked so beautifully in the boardroom worked even more powerfully in our home."
ART ROBERTSON, PH.D. · FOUNDER, MARRIED TO LINDA FOR 50 YEARS
Ph.D., New York University
Ordained minister since 1962
Founding member, International Listening Association
Author, Listen for Success
Marquis Lifetime Achievement Award, 2019
Marriages don't fail from lack of love.
Dr. Art Robertson spent his ministry and his psychotherapy practice asking one question: what makes marriages work? The answer kept coming back to communication. He built The Marriage Mirror on fifty years of listening research, the life's work of Dr. Lyman K. Steil, founder of the International Listening Association, who chose Robertson to carry it forward. Listening isn't a feeling. It's a skill, and skills can be rebuilt.
INSIDE THE PROGRAM
This is the actual Mirror.
The real Scoring Chart from inside the program – 14 listening skills, 12 speaking skills, and 12 environment skills – rated four ways: how you see yourself, how your spouse sees you, and the reverse.
The gap between those columns is what you'll talk about. Most couples have never seen it in writing.
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MARK’S REVIEW OF MARK
SUSAN’S REVIEW OF MARK
When my partner speaks, I give my undivided attention.
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I wait without interrupting until my partner is through, then pause, think and respond.
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I ask questions to clarify what I don’t understand.
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In conversation with my partner, I listen more than I speak.
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I notice the nonverbal messages given by my partner’s body language.
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Sample data with names changed. Inside the program you see all four views: each of you, rating yourself and each other, across every skill.
THE FOUR STEPS YOU TAKE TOGETHER THROUGH EACH CENTRAL PILLAR OF COMMUNICATION.
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Gain clarity with assessments
You each rate yourself and your partner on specific habits, separately and honestly.
2
Connect with the Mirror process
A guided discussion where you compare what you each saw. This is where it lands.
3
Build new habits with personalized action plans
Tailored plans for each of you, targeting the key behaviors where growth matters most.
4
Reinforce and celebrate progress
Practice and encouragement over a full year, so the change actually sticks.
EVERYTHING THE TWO OF YOU UNLOCK
Built to be used at the kitchen table.
The full assessments: 38 core behaviors viewed from 4 distinct perspectives.
Both of you, rating yourself and each other across Listening, Speaking, and Environment. Your communication, in writing, for the first time.
Marriage Mirror Reviews
Your four scores side by side, so the conversation is about facts on a page instead of accusations in the air.
A guided Action Plan builder
Every skill comes pre-loaded with suggestions and measurable steps. Copy one, adapt one, or write your own, then commit to it for 21 days.
13 guided videos
Dr. Art and his team of marriage professionals walk you into every step, in short clips that fit real schedules.
Discussion hints and motivation tips
On-demand help for every skill, one click away the moment a conversation gets stuck.
Visualization exercises
Guided mental rehearsal for each pillar, so the new habit shows up when it counts.
Caught Ya Cards and Heartgrams
Light, playful ways to catch your spouse communicating well and celebrate it, on paper or by text.
A full year of access
Work at your own pace, then retake the Mirror and see measurable proof of how far the two of you have come.
BEFORE YOU ASK
Is this the same as seeing a counselor?
No. It's a guided program you work through privately at home, at your own pace. It is not a substitute for professional help if that is what your situation calls for.
Does my spouse have to take part?
While the program is designed for couples to complete together, your spouse doesn't have to participate for you to see real results. If your partner is hesitant, you can still go through the program on your own. You'll gain valuable communication insights, learn practical tools, and complete their side of the assessment by stepping into their shoes. Often, seeing the positive changes in you is what inspires them to join in later (at no extra cost).
How long does it take?
About 2 hours of focused work per pillar, plus 21 days of practice to turn new skills into habits. Access runs a full year, so you can retake the Mirror and measure the change.
Is it faith-based?
Yes. It is built on Christ-centered communication, on the belief that God desires your marriage to be rock-solid. The method itself is grounded in five decades of listening research.
What if the conversation turns into an argument?
The program prepares you for that. Before each review, you both agree to a short Discussion Covenant with simple ground rules, follow steps to create a positive atmosphere, and access on-demand discussion hints and motivation tips whenever you feel stuck.
What if our marriage is in serious trouble?
The Marriage Mirror is not a substitute for professional help. Many couples use it alongside counseling, and if your situation calls for a licensed therapist, please start there.
What if it is not for us?
The program comes with a 30-day money-back guarantee. Try it together, and if it is not the right fit within the first 30 days, ask for a refund.
Two minutes now. A different conversation this week.
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