Our Listening Discussion Covenant
GUIDING WISDOM:
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” (James 1:19)
“Listen carefully before you answer.” (Proverbs 18:13)
“Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom for the future.” (Proverbs 19:20)
Our Core Commitment
For this discussion, we commit to creating a safe, loving space focused on mutual understanding. We are here to celebrate our communication strengths, identify our differences in perception, and offer positive support to build new, life-giving habits. We trust God to transform our communication as we look into the mirror of our relationship with grace, clarity, and a shared desire to grow.
Why We Commit
To ensure our spouse feels deeply valued, loved, and heard, while sparking renewed trust and intimacy.
Non-Negotiable Ground Rules
- Timing & Environment: We will not meet if either of us is tired, hungry, or stressed.
- Mindset & Tone: Zero complaints or criticisms. We will use warm, friendly voices and caring words focused on solutions. Our goal is to understand, not to prove who is right.
- Presence: We will eliminate digital distractions, sit side-by-side (not across), maintain eye contact, and keep an open posture.
The Covenant Promise
As you step into your Marriage Mirror discussion, remember this is a time for grace and growth, not defense or blame. Watch as Dr. Art Robertson shares a brief inspirational message and then guides you through the Covenant ceremony.
Step 1: Vow – Share a mutual vow of honor. (Then pause the video when instructed, at 5:03.)
Step 2: Affirmation – Share your prepared compliments. (When finished, resume the video.)
Step 3: Prayer – Join in a closing prayer of blessing.
Click here for a printable copy of the Discussion Covenant to sign (optional, also available on your Resources tab).
Ready to Begin: Once you have completed your Vows, Compliments, and Prayer, check the acknowledgment box below to activate the “Begin Now” button.