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Our Listening Discussion Covenant

GUIDING WISDOM:

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” (James 1:19)

“Listen carefully before you answer.” (Proverbs 18:13)

“Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom for the future.” (Proverbs 19:20)

Our Commitment: We affirm that this covenant creates a safe, loving space for growth—not judgment. Our partner is our “mirror,” revealing blind spots and strengths. We trust God to transform our marriage through this conversation!

Why We Commit

  1. Prioritize our relationship.
  2. Feel valued, loved, and heard.
  3. Ignite trust, romance, and intimacy.
  4. Strengthen our bond forever.

Non-Negotiable Ground Rules

  1. Timing: No meeting if tired, hungry, irritable, or intoxicated.
  2. Mindset: Zero complaints, criticisms, or disappointment – focus on growth!
  3. Tone: Use a warm, friendly voice and caring words.
  4. Body Language: Sit side-by-side (not across), smile, eye contact, open posture.
  5. Mutual Goal: Understand – not prove we’re right.

Our Plan for Discussion

Our plan ensures our discussion brings grace, clarity, and a path to growth:

  1. Agree on who begins sharing their assessment answers first.
  2. Identify similarities and differences in our perceptions.
  3. Celebrate the strengths and successes of how we currently communicate.
  4. Define the desired changes we both want to make in our communication.
  5. Offer positive ideas and support for helping each other improve our skills.

The Covenant Promise

You are about to step into your Marriage Mirror discussion. This is a time for grace and growth, not for defense or blame. The Covenant Promise secures a productive environment for your discussion. Listen as Dr. Art Robertson shares a brief inspirational message and then guides you through the Covenant ceremony. After the vow is read aloud, kindly respond by saying “I do.”

(Prefer to read? This companion article follows along with the audio message.)

Step 1: Vow – Share a mutual vow of honor. (Pause the audio file after the vows, at 4:25.)

Step 2: Affirmation – Share your prepared compliments. (When finished, resume the audio.)

Step 3: Prayer – Join in a prayer of blessing.

Click here for a printable copy of the Discussion Covenant to sign.

Ready to Begin: Once you have completed your Vows, Compliments, and Prayer, check the acknowledgment box below to activate the “Begin Now” button.