Affirm Your Partner

Become a “Success Coach” to empower and multiply the positive changes you see.

Great communication doesn’t happen in a vacuum—it thrives on encouragement. While you work on your individual goals, you will also act as a “Success Coach” for your partner. To make this easy and fun, we have gathered all your affirmation tools into one place. This is your final step before you execute your plan.

Caught Ya Cards

What we focus on, we empower. By shifting your focus from “catching” your partner doing something wrong to acknowledging what they do right, you multiply the peace in your marriage.

  1. Print & Prepare: Print 2 Commitment/Feedback pages and cut them into strips. Keep the “Caught Ya” cards handy (in your wallet or on your desk) so you’re always ready to leave a “paper trail” of appreciation.
  2. Commit: Fill out the Commitment Card at the top of the page. Clearly state the specific skill you are working on and hand it to your partner. This “contract” gives them permission to be your Success Coach.
  3. Affirm: When you catch your partner practicing their committed skill, tear off a Feedback Card and give it to them. Be specific about what you saw and how it made you feel.

Heartgrams

If you prefer digital messages, Heartgrams are a delightful way to spark joy and connection with your partner. Just select the image that best fits your words of encouragement and share it via text or email.

Action Decks

These cards are your daily “field guides” for real-time change. They translate the concepts from your Action Plan into simple, actionable prompts. Why use them? Most relationship growth fails because we forget our goals when stress hits. These cards keep your new habits “top of mind” until they become second nature.

Preparation & Assembly: Print a full deck for each of you. Use cardstock if available. There are 4 cards per page. Cut the cards along the borders so they are easy to carry and display.

How to Use Your Deck:

  1. The Skill Card (Your Focus): Take the skill card for your chosen skill. Keep it where you’ll see it—on your desk, your nightstand, or your car’s dashboard. Use the HINT to understand the logic and the HOW to guide your actions, and the RESULT to measure your own success. Let the SOUL quote inspire your mindset for the day.

  2. The Support Card (Your Partner’s Focus): Take the support card for your partner’s chosen skill. It tells you what to look for so you can “catch” your partner practicing their new habit. Use the Affirmation Examples as inspiration for your “Caught Ya” cards, Heartgrams, or daily texts.

  3. Full Deck: While you begin with your chosen skills, you can study the complete “menu” as your communication evolves. You aren’t limited to just two cards; you have the whole system at your fingertips.

NOTE: You can access all these Affirmation tools from your member Resources tab.

You have your tools and your partner has your back. Let’s move forward to design your path toward transformation.